IF FIGHT COMES YOUR WAY

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IF FIGHT COMES YOUR WAY

Written by: Trisha Paola C. Tangan

I’m sorry to all the K-drama fans out there but this article isn’t about Park Seojun’s recent drama ‘Fight For My Way’ but on how we keep iskwad’s bond when fight becomes a part of the picture.

We do not deny that fights and misunderstandings come in the middle of our relationship with friends, as a matter fact, we have to embrace this truth.

Here’s some advice on how to deal with it:

ACCEPT REALITIES

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The first rule is to accept realities of the world – that conflicts occur. Acknowledge the idea that it happens and it is inevitable.

RESPOND, INSTEAD OF REACTING

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Breathe in and out. Very similar to GMA’s think before you click, barkadas must first analyze the reasons behind the conflict. It is best to look every side of the story. We do not want to be subjective, taking our own side just because we don’t want to lose in a fight.  Open your minds and ears for reasons. Do not let your emotions turn you into a monster. Overthinking does not offer a solution to a conflict. If the situation requires you to do something, do it.

COMMUNICATE

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We do not want to end the day with a heavy heart, I suggest humbling ourselves and try to have a private conversation with that friend. It is better to be honest with everything. Speak your heart and your mind as well. Avoid communicating with them through text message, instead make a call or talk to them personally.

FORGIVE

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Most people would say that it’s good to just ‘forgive and forget’. But take into consideration that forgetting does not assure complete resolution of the conflict, but a good talk does. One does not completely forget the past. Instead of constantly reminding ourselves about the ‘nega vibes’ let us forgive as we hope for others to do the same thing unto us.

Behind every squad’s lasting friendship is genuine love and honesty. Have you guys encountered fights with your friends? Comment below how you overcame those struggles. 😉